Sunday, June 20, 2010

10 things I learned after dating a #$%@#^#^

This is me being my own therapist. :)


10. I learned that it's okay to have my own, separate goals and live them out separately, but together. My priorities have always been the important things: school, family, my career and doing whatever makes me happy. It's fine to do your own thing, just make sure to share your experiences with that person, even if it's just talking about it and not actually experiencing it together.

9. If no one will say it, I will: when he/she is not finding the spot, ya better draw out a map and help a brotha/sista out. No one knows what makes you get the tingles better than yourself. Speak up if your significant other is completely clueless down there --- just don't be mean about it! The relationship is sooo much better when the intimacy is great. No one should ever have to overlook bad sex!!!

8. No, hanging out with your ex is NOT okay. I never had a problem with this up until, well, it became a problem. I'd never want to tell someone I love to stop talking to someone else, and if the right person comes around, I shouldn't have to. Anyone in their right mind should know it's okay to stay on good terms with an ex, but a complete disrespect to bring em around.

7. Your friends are your friends, and my friends are mine. It's fine to have mutual friends, but it's necessary to have your own friends.

6. On that note, friend days are a MUST. It makes you miss your booboo and appreciate your time together. It also allows you to experience "you time" and not so much "us time." Gossip and wine with the girls keep a woman sane!

5. Call me naïve, but it's okay to not snoop. I never did and it made me feel confident and secure about myself. I just thought I had no reason to. CLEARLY I was wrong (!!!) but I wouldn't have it any other way. Jealousy and insecurity are wasted emotions.

3. Never go to sleep angry at each other. Resolve all your issues before bedtime, kiss and makeup!

2. Breakups are not the end of the world. They allow for change and growth. People break up all the time. Seriously, get over it and make the best of it. I did!

1. Forgive and forget. I promise it will set you free. I'm still working on the forgetting part, but the forgiving stage is done and over with and it's a great feeling. :)

Wednesday, June 16, 2010

I admit it: I still want Jennifer Aniston hair


At the start of the year, I got a much too expensive hair makeover. Though my hair looked awesome for a whole month, the triple digit money I paid for it should have stayed in my piggy bank. Truth is, no one should ever pay that much money for hair. It gets oily in two days, picks up bad smells and grows faster than a Chia Pet. Since then, I've been maintaining my locks on my own, doing my own streaks and yup, even cutting my own hair. -Tough times.-


This morning, I realized how much I suck at doing all of those things. My streaks look, well, like shit, and my hair is uneven. Why, WHY?, can't I just have Jennifer Aniston hair???

Monday, June 14, 2010

Stuart Little

It's kinda bittersweet... you know, this whole "temporary move" thing. In case you DON'T know, I've moved to Stuart, Florida for three months to intern at the Stuart News. I was beyond excited to finally leave the nest, even if it was for just a little while. I was even more excited to work with new people at a newsroom and to get to work with other interns my age. Though my experience at the Palm Beach Post was great, I was the only intern around and at times I kind of just felt, well, lost.

Things are different here.

Wayyy different.

For one, people here are nice. That's not something I'm used to coming from Miami. I mean really, the people here actually slow down and make way for you when you want to switch lanes on the road. They say good morning and good night, even if they don't know you. They smile when you make eye contact. Am I still on the same planet where people sized you up and down if you looked at them? Where people sped up if you wanted to switch into their lane? Where you have to lock your door as soon as you hit a specific part of town because you're scared shitless? Yup, same planet. In fact, only two hours away. It's astonishing.

Anyway, my condo is cute. Two bedrooms/two bathrooms (The other bedroom and bathroom remain untouched. That room freaks me out. I swear, I think it's haunted). I have two, uhh, nice-to-look-at neighbors, if you know what I mean. But the greatest thing of all is that I'm so close to the beach. I go twice a day sometimes. It's awesome. I wish I could surf or fish. Sigh.

What sucks is that I know a handful of people. As the Miami girl that is used to going out every night, I want to pull every single strand of hair out when I see myself sitting on the couch at 8 PM doing absolutely nothing.

Stuart is beautiful. There's beach and there's country. There's nice people, and, well, okay also some not-too-nice people, but I just brush those off.  There's no traffic. There are plenty of things to do, I just have no one to do it with and that, eh, that just SUCKS.

Saturday, June 5, 2010

May Madness

Okay, so I haven't come by in a while. I have a pretty legit reason, in my defense.

MAY WAS AN INSANELY BUSY MONTH!!!

On May 7, I celebrated by 22 birthday (my real day is on the 11) and I wanted to make it a big one. It was definitely a success... I had a greaaattttt time. My friends and I all had been anticipating Sex & the City 2, so I decided to make it a girl's night, Sex & the City style. We all had dinner and drinks at Dolores But You Can Call Me Lolita and then danced the night away at Blue Martini.


On May 8, my amazing editor, Chris Delboni, had a party at her house. It was a nice way of ending the semester and my time with the South Florida News Service. She insisted on putting me on the spot by having everyone sing happy birthday to me and thennnnnn making me give a speech. 

That same day, the wonderful and veryyy cute Tim McGraw came to West Palm Beach and put on a helllll of a show. The opening act was Lady Antebellum and, okay fine they weren't as fantastic as I thought they would be, but overall it was a goooood night.

Theeeeennnn, come May 11, I celebrated my real day with the girls at reggae night at Bougenvillias. I love love love the band that plays there every other tuesday. I'm determined to have them play at my wedding (assuming I will get married one day in the distant future) .

The weekend after, I moved into my first place. Though it's only a temporary, 3 month move, I was sooo excited to finally get a taste of what it's like to be alone. I moved to Stuart, Florida to start my internship at the Stuart News, a Scripps Treasure Coast Newspaper.

Expect to see more updates on my experience. ;)